Common reactions to abuse:
- Disbelief and denial - this can't be happening to me or it really isn't as bad as all that
- Guilt - I must have done something to cause him to do this
- Depression - lack of interest, no energy, suicidal thoughts
- Low self esteem - I deserve what has happened to me. I don't deserve to be happy.
- Resignations and hopelessness - this must be my lot in life. There is nothing I can do about this.
- Shock - this can't be happening to me.
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Women's affirmations
- I have the right not to be abused
- I am not to blame for being abused.
- I have the right to be angry about the abuse.
- I am not the cause of another person's abusive behaviour.
- I am worth working for and changing for.
- I have the right to freedom from fear of abuse.
- I deserve to make my own life safe and happy.
- I have the right to request and expect assistance from police or social agencies
- I am not alone - I can ask others to help me.
- I have the right to be treated like an adult.
- I am a worthwhile woman and deserve to be treated with respect.
- I have the right to express my own thoughts and feelings.
- I have the right to privacy.
- I do have power over my own life.
- I can decide for myself what is best for me.
- I have the right not to be perfect.
Safety plan
- Plan an emergency exit- what is the safest way to get our of your location.
- Store a travel bag with someone you trust. You could also establish a code word with friend, so that they would know to call the police immediately.
- Keep some money, spare house and /or car keys credit cards, calling cards, etc. where you can get to them right away.
- If possible, get your own bank account and credit cards. arrange to have bank and financial statements sent to a friend or to a post office box.
- Locate emergency numbers and have them where you can access them right away.
Who to call:
- Call 911 for emergency situations.
- Mobile Crisis - 757-0127
- Transition House - 569-2292
- Isobel Johnson Shelter - 525-2141
- WISH Shelter - 543-0493
- Or call us 522-2777 for help and counselling
Domestic Violence
Domestic violence in intimate relationships is very widespread. It is the result of one person trying to maintain power and control over the other through abusive means.
In our unequal society women tend to be the victims in the majority of cases. Domestic violence crosses all racial, economic and social lines.
Types of abuse
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